The Uncle Audit

REFLECTION CHALLENGE 

A 5-Part Reflection for Fathers, Uncles & Chosen Men

Set aside 15–20 minutes this week. Find a quiet space. Be honest with yourself.

Question 1: Who are you the Uncle to?

Write down the names of the young people in your life — biological children or not — who you feel genuinely trust you. Who runs to you? Who texts you when things go sideways? Who lights up when you walk in the room? Don't overthink it. Write the names.

Question 2: When did you last invest in them intentionally?

Look at your list. For each name — when was the last time you reached out not because you had to, but because you wanted to? Not at a family event or scheduled time, but just... because? If you're struggling to remember, that's your answer.

Question 3: What do they see you modeling?

If the young people in your orbit were describing how you handle stress, disagreement, failure, or success — what would they say? Is that the lesson you want to be teaching? Be honest. We model more than we mentor.

Question 4: Who was your Uncle?

Think about the man — or men — who played this role in your life. Whether it was a biological uncle, a teacher, a coach, a neighbor, a pastor. What did he do that you still carry? Write it down. Now ask yourself: am I giving that same gift to someone else?

Question 5: What is your one next step?

Choose one young person from your list. Identify one specific action you will take this week to invest in them. A phone call. A handwritten note. An invitation to spend time together. A conversation you've been putting off. Write it down. Put it in your calendar. Do the thing.